There’s really only one problem with asking a man to do something.
The problem is this: if you ask a man to do something, he won’t do it.
Pretty straight forward.
This article is my exploration into how a women can get her man to do something.
The most obvious answers are of course, threatening to commit suicide, throwing your shoes across the room or keying his car. But I’ll skip these today.
Direct Approach |
There’s another article floating around the internet that teaches women about men. It says “If you want something, just ask for it, we don’t get hints.”
I’m sure that all you women out there know that this doesn’t necessarily work. “Yes” will always be his response “I’ll do it” but you know that door isn’t going to get fixed. Not this year.
The problem with asking ‘directly’ is that it’s similar to an ultimatum. Both parties can very easily lose. If you’ve asked your man ‘directly’ to do something and he says “yes” but doesn’t do it, your only recourse from there is to yell and scream at him for not doing something he said he would.
This is all bad.
No good is going to come from this.
If you don’t yell and scream, you can always ask directly again or give a gentle hint, in which case you’ll get a touchy reply of “Yes! I said I’d do it didn’t I?”
And still it won’t get done. Then you’ll have to yell and scream at him anyway.
Like I said. All bad.
Forget about asking ‘directly’, it’s not gonna happen.
Indirect Approach |
There is always the ‘indirect’ approach. But as mentioned above, men don’t get hints. I don’t believe this is entirely true. Sometimes I think us men just like to pretend we didn’t understand as an excuse for not doing it.
“The rubbish is full Honey” you say, and I’m pretty certain your man knows that you mean “Empty the garbage, you lazy stinking pig.”
He’s still not gonna do it though.
The good thing about the ‘indirect’ approach is that when your man doen’t do it, you don’t have to end in a screaming match. See the truth is, you want to love him and buy asking ‘indirectly’ you’re giving him an ‘out’. So nothing happens (unless you do it yourself), but you can both still love each others.
So I guess that’s good.
3rd Party Approach |
Another option often suggested by a friend of mine is what I call the ‘third party’ option.
Your door still needs fixing, your man still hasn’t done it (surprised?), so you say “I’ll see if Bob next door is free to have a look at our door.”
No-can-do! Believe me. This sounds reasonable to women – Bob comes around, fixes the door, sees your man couching, thinks he’s a jerk, your man realises that he’s an ass and starts doing stuff.
No no no no.
That’s how a women would see it happening but the man sees this as manipulation.
Manipulation is the number one way to ruin a relationship with a man. Don’t manipulate your man. Unless it’s a life and death issue, leave this option on the other side of your broken door. Use this option, and you will receive the silent treatment or the disappearing act. And you women know that this is the number one way for a man to cause you pain.
Playing Hero |
Surely I’ll get in trouble for what I’m going to say next, but as a guy, I can’t see any other alternative. You see, I’m like your average guy who won’t fix the door when my women asks me to fix it.
But here it is. I figure that men need to be trained much like dogs. If you want your dog to do something, you offer a treat, or give him attention.
In the case of your man needing attention, I want to substitute this with ‘feeding his ego’. Ever heard of a man without an ego problem?
No?
Neither have I!
A friend of mine does it this way. She grabs the tool kit, she goes to the door, and she starts making mistakes. She says “Hey there Man, I can’t get this screw undone” or something lame like that. He comes over and tells her how she’s doing it allllll wrong. “You have to do it like this and this and…”
So the door is fixed and he gets to play hero.
I love playing hero. It’s just like being in primary school again (men never really did grow up – we only call ourselves men instead of boys because women got a name change from girl – we wanted one as well.)
Problem is, the woman still has to get the tools, and put them away because her man isn’t going to put them away if she’s the one who brought them out in the first place. But chances are the door will get fixed.
So that’s the ‘hero’ method.
There’s also the ‘treat’ method. You’ll need to know what it is your man wants. And this can become quite costly. You don’t want to be paying for a ferrari every time you want your door fixed.
But anyway, I don’t feel I need to be explicit on this point. Women are smart enough to know how to prepare a treat for their man. But do remember that you need to leave him enough time to fix the door between promising the ‘treat’ and the realization of the ‘treat’.
The easiest way to do this is perhaps say you need to shower (or bath) and you’ll give it to him when he’s fixed the door. All men know that you’re going to be gone for nearly an hour, so he’s got an hour to fix the door while he’s waiting for that ‘treat’.
And thus concludes my article on ‘Making Men Do’
Really, I think it’s much easier if the women just did everything and let us sit on the sofa. Then everyone would be happy.
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